Hope for the Hopeless Wife

Maybe you’re like me, I delight in the beauty of flowers and how they adorn my window boxes and landscaping around my home but would never think of growing them from seeds. Oh heck no! My impatience, no pun intended, wants the full bloom, fragrance and beauty of those flowers immediately.

Today as I was thinking about those flowers, I realized I have the same impatience in my heart towards my marriage. I expect or maybe even demand that it must have all the beauty and fragrance of a God centered covenant without planting any seeds of forgiveness, understanding, peace, kindness, or sacrificial love and wonder why, my marriage looks more live a shriveled up weed than a beautiful flower garden.

The Bible often uses metaphors of “planting seeds” to describe spiritual principles an imagery to teach us the truth of His word.

Sowing What you want to Reap: “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. Le us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up” Galatians 6: 7-9 In marriage, this applies to the investing kindness, patience, forgiveness and love, knowing that consistent sowing will bear fruit (or beautiful blooms) over time.

Love and Sacrifice as Seeds: “Husband love your wives , just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her..” Ephesians 5:25. Loving sacrificially especially when it’s not easy, is like planting sees that build trust and emotional security.

The Power of Words: “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will east of its fruit.” Proverbs 18;21. Speaking words of encouragement, gratitude, and grace into your marriage are like planting seeds that grow into intimacy and resilience. Negative words can plant seeds of discord.

Sowing in Peach and Unity: “Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness.” James 3:18. Promoting peace and unity in your home through understanding and grace results in a righteous and joyful marriage.

Faithfulness and Long-Term Investment: “Sow righteousness for yourselves, reap the fruit of unfailing love, and break up your unplowed ground; for it is time to see the Lord.” Hosea 10:12. A healthy marriage often requires “breaking up the ground’ which is addressing unresolved issues or heart-hardness and sowing righteousness (right actions and attitudes) over time to reap lasting love.

Godly seed planting in marriage means consistently investing in Love over resentment, forgiveness over bitterness, service over selfishness, encouragement over criticism and faithfulness over apathy.

Like planting seeds in our garden, the harvest doesn’t come immediately, but God does honor and bless consistent sowing in righteousness and love. A Godly marriage in cultivated intentionally – One seed at a time